Ever have that feeling of resentment when a friendly co-worker says, “good morning,” with a smile on their face that you can’t even fathom? Or when you’re near a Susie Sunshine, and you want to rain on every inch of her parade? I’ve felt both of these things and so much more. But breaking up with negativity is one of the best choices I’ve ever made.

Negativity was my lover for years. I became so comfortable with him that it was second nature for me to mind-numbingly wade in his dark cruddy waters of crap. He even proposed to me years ago. I happily said, “Yes, take me now! I already have the perfect black veil!” We had a simple ceremony with just the two of us, because who needs family and friends around anyway? 

Throughout our relationship, I’ve done my fair share of hiding in dark corners while wearing smudgy black eyeliner, and purposely listening to the most depressing songs I could find. Our relationship consisted of daily pessimism, intense procrastination, substance abuse, wallowing, and fear. 

Leave the relationship that is no longer serving you

However, in April of 2018, I pulled the plug on the romance with my dark prince. Our relationship was wearing down over the years as it was. He begged and pleaded with me in hopes that I’d go back on my decision. But I had to break the news. I told him I found a new man. “A new man? And how will he be better for you?” Asked my beautiful sullen prince.

“Well, he will be so much better for me because he is swaggy and rides a gorgeous white unicorn that sashays through rainbows and pixie dust.” I confidently replied. My dark prince looked heartbrokenly melancholy. I hugged him goodbye and thanked him for teaching me some valuable lessons. 

My relationship with the light prince thus far has been anything but easy. The dark prince visits me almost every day. He is relentlessly trying to pull me back under his wing. A lot of the time, he still gets to see me. But I keep rejecting him as much as I can. I also keep reminding him that we’re over.

I try to drown his dark poetry with heaps of brightly colored pixie dust and glitter. Many times I cringe at the new Susie Sunshine mentality that seems to have taken over me.

“I don’t want to be one of those irritating happy morning people.” I’ll think to myself. But the problem is that I do want to wake up happier and work toward a more fulfilling life. So rather than viewing that as a problem, I’m looking at it as a cause for action. My lovely light prince will always be waiting for me to join him in chasing dreams and rainbows simultaneously. 

The light is waiting…

The last time I checked, there are no rules against riding to higher grounds on a breathtaking white stallion without forgetting the dark path that has brought you exactly where you need to be. Be proud of your journey, and don’t ever think that lighter days are inaccessible to you!

I’ve found that the key to unlocking those days comes through a mix of accepting where you are right now and continuing to work toward a more positive state of mind. 

Unfortunately, you may not be immune to days where you find yourself drained because of how bad you feel. On those days, try to remind yourself of at least one positive thing in your life.

It could be something as small as the fact you didn’t step in dog sh*t at the dog park. You know how heartbreaking it is to smell that on one’s shoe and then carry the burden of cleaning it. 

Breaking up with negativity is necessary for self-love

Marrying a light prince or princess isn’t easy. But I don’t think we are all here for easy. The best things worth having don’t tend to come easy. However, you owe it to yourself to show up for the challenge each day that you’re lucky enough to be alive.

Breaking up with negativity isn’t easy and it won’t be a clean break, but it’s doable! I know you and I are more than capable!

We are composed of stardust. Represent our universe with a heart that aims to shine in the light rather than suffering in the dark.